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Each class will be taught by Jodi Hildebrandt, owner and founder of ConneXions.
This course will facilitate your growth as a parent. You won't want to miss out!
Connection is the central spiritual and emotional need of every human being. Connection is an outcome of being impeccably emotionally honest, assertive, responsible, humble, transparent, open, and vulnerable. It means taking risks, sacrificing, and genuinely validating others. Calm, peace and empathy are the outcomes of a lifestyle of connection. Children who pursue this course become conscious of—and can challenge—their distorted thoughts, false beliefs, fears, addictions, lusts and selfishness, and find the fruits of love, empathy, intimacy, compassion, personal empowerment, spiritual freedom, and connection.
However . . . connection is difficult to maintain because of our human tendency to react in distorted thoughts and deny pain / vulnerability (attempt to control things, people, and/or self).
Children need awareness—logical, spiritual and emotional. They are watching and engaging with people and things around them, and when those “things” and experiences are pleasant or give them an outcome that they deem as desirable, they will continue to engage the experience or activity. They are not thinking about Truth or distortion. That’s where you come in—your responsibility as an adult in their world is to teach them morality, ethics, connection, vulnerability, validation, manners, compassion, boundaries, politeness, awareness—all the characteristics that support a child to be whole, refined, sophisticated (emotionally, mentally & spiritually) and joyful. You also are responsible to teach them about distortion and when they are in distortion, so they can recognize the outcomes that happen when they (or others) choose to stay in distortion.
Through the RAISE process you will begin to share and teach children how and why they choose distortion. The RAISE process is a skill set that teaches you to manage your emotional life and teach (your) children to do the same. Children need to be instructed that the pain (optional) that exists in their life is because of their misinterpretations of Reality / Truth.
This skill will gradually free children of the mistaken conclusion that others are responsible for their emotions, thoughts, or behaviors—or that they are responsible for others’.
As you are consistent with them in developing this skill, distorted thoughts / false beliefs will become more obvious to them (and you), giving both of you the opportunity to respond (be conscious and engage) instead of reacting (“knee-jerk” / unconscious).
Your children NEED your support and steady awareness to identify their distorted thoughts and false beliefs. Distorted thoughts and false beliefs invite them into a place of blame, comparison, isolation, and disconnect. Identifying distorted thoughts and false beliefs invites them into healing, new awareness, personal responsibility, vulnerability, and connection.
Drama is the emotional / physical manifestation that you have disconnected from Reality / Truth and are in distorted thoughts and the Paths to Pain.
The outward skills and inward choices and actions of self-care are vitally important—in a very real sense, self-care habits keep you alive both physically and spiritually. And, your motives for choosing to care for yourself are equally important. Motives are the central hub—the “nerve center”—that produces your every thought, word and choice. Your motives are either in Truth or distortion, and therefore you can choose to care for yourself in Truth (Truthful motives), or not care for yourself in distortion (distorted motives). Consistent self-care, if done in honesty and responsibility, will continuously move your motives towards greater Truth and less distortion.
The motivation to self-care must come from each individual. Nobody can do it for you, and you cannot do it for your children—they must learn (and it’s our responsibility to teach them how) to care for themselves. We each choose whether or not to self-care, how we self-care, why we self-care.
1. Acknowledge the behavior you need / want to surrender (forgive).
2. Language what the behavior is/was.
3. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that are connected to the behavior
(past / present).
4. Validate (or have someone validate) your experiences and emotions.
5. Create and hold boundaries with yourself and the other person as you
move towards surrendering.
6. Surrender: past or present grievance / conflict / trauma.
"This parenting course offered by Connexions classroom is a game changer! Being a mother is such a rewarding but difficult challenge but through the principles in this class I feel much better equipped and more confident to parent my children. There are so many parenting tips, tricks, and classes out there but this goes deeper. It goes to the root of parenting."
"Prior to participating in the Connexions class I felt like I had a good marriage and considered myself to be a good father. Honestly, I didn't think I needed to attend the class but I wanted to be a supportive husband, and my wife really wanted us to take the class, like being brutally honest, vulnerable, and understanding inevitable pain vs optional pain. I feel like I am demonstrating a greater love to my kids by setting clear cut boundaries and allowing outcomes to occur when those boundaries are broken."