30 DAY SEPTEMBER
Baseball is America's past time. Reading is the World's past time. Learning is divine past time. Get started below.
Read Book Here (Chapter 4: Pages 21-26)
This 30 day challenge is to help turn fathers and mothers toward their children and children toward their parents. You may also apply this challenge to any relationship. For the purpose of this challenge, please choose one relationship you desire to focus on for the next 30 days.
You will be asked to complete 1 invitation daily. Please commit to yourself and your loved one to complete each and every day's invitation. Invite your loved one to participate as well to improve your relationship.
The Great Question of the 21st Century
Disconnection: Choice or Condition?
"Everyone's doing it."
"Kids naturally are in their own little world."
"My son was just born disconnected. Don't blame him or YOU will make it worse."
"It's a medical condition. He needs his pills to not go bouncing off of the walls."
Is disconnection choice or condition?
Podcast 74: Parenting–Disconnection a Silent Killer
Where are you going? What are you doing to improve today? Wait! Stop! Don't look at your relationship! Look internally first.
4 And again, ye shall say unto them, Why is it that thou beholdest the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
5 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and canst not behold a beam in thine own eye?
8 Say unto them, Ye hypocrites, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.
Matthew 7: 4-5, 8
Watch this One-On-One Video with Desi
ConneXions' first One-On-One video! Jodi Hildebrandt talks with Desi (creator of Mom's Conference) from Utah about warning signs, technology, boundaries, and children.
Why are kids so disconnected? Is technology to blame? Or is there a deeper issue?
Take the time. Sit down. Genuinely write a thoughtful letter to your parent or child. We invite you to write it by hand and to include a picture (drawn or printed) of a memorable experience together.
Think to yourself: "how would I feel if someone hand delivered a kind and warm letter to me? Would I want to improve?"
Talk! Talk! Talk! Communication is Key! Express your feelings and thoughts with responsibility, meaning: your thoughts and feelings are yours to own and change, not someone else's. Here's a solid example of healthy communication.
Example: Can I just let you know that I really enjoyed spending time with you last night. There was a moment when I did feel uncomfortable. I said that I felt I was better than you. I felt like we weren't connecting after that comment because I was comparing myself rather than enjoying one another's company and understanding that we are two separate beings. May I ask you, how did I affect you when I said that? . . .
You have the privilege of living one more day on this beautiful planet. Thank your creator. Go and serve. Wait! Before you do, consider one thing. The M word . . . motive! What is your motive for serving? Is it because you want your relationship to like you? Or that you want them to be your friend? Or you want to genuinely help someone out without expectations of receiving anything in return from them? Be conscious of your expectations and motives! It is fine to have an expectation in Truth, moreover, your expectations are your responsibility to meet, not someone else's.
Learn more about motives here.
Listen to Episode 72: Parenting–Teaching the Power of Choice
When I try to be responsible for my children's upset, sadness, trails, hard-ache, poor behavior, crankiness, happiness, pleasure, making the baseball team, popularity, and so forth, I am controlling.
The parent is responsible to teach. The child is responsible to choose. It may seem simple, however, 95% of parents try to be responsible for the choices of their children which destroys choice and outcome.
We want you to listen and hear these words of responsibility and power. There is power is choosing responsibility. Why not teach your children this power and live it yourself. Both of you will feel and become free! Start Teaching and Stop Controlling.
I love setting goals and making plans. As I set goals, I feel motivation. This is my favorite quote on dreaming! Hope you enjoy.
What is your favorite quote? Share Your Favorite Quote Here
I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz,
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
I love you as certain dark things are to be loved,
in secret, between the shadow and the soul.
I love you as the plant that never blooms
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,
risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way
than this: where I does not exist, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.
– Pablo Neruda
“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”
Stephen R. Covey
Become a friend by asking curious questions, listening, and sharing feedback. The best time to start a great relationship was 20 years ago because now you would have had a beautiful connection. The second best time is today.
Empower yourself and invite your relationship to do the same by reading the second chapter in Parenting: Empowering Children to Become Responsible. Focus on how you can change FIRST. Then ponder and meditate on how you can invite your loved one to also improve. As both of you become more responsible, you will come naturally be closer.
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As you develop your relationship with your parent or child you will desire to serve them. Physical and emotional acts of service are both acceptable and lovely. More often than not, emotional acts of service are much more difficult to find and to preform. Your challenge today is to serve your loved one in one way.
Sit back and relax. Listen to podcast 19: Parenting with Responsibility. Focus on why responsibility is imperative any relationship. Afterwards, focus on why responsibility in a parenting dynamic can be so fruitful and a joyous experience. How can you parent with more responsibility? If you are a child, how can you accept more responsibility?
Get out there and stay connected!
After all the activities, vacations, parties, projects, and "stuff", you only have your relationships. How often do you sit down and talk? Specifically, how is your verbal connection with your parent/child? Would you like to be more connected? Sit down for 10 minutes and converse. If you can't physically, give them a call or Skype. Talk about both your and their likes, dislikes, goals, dreams, aspirations, etc.
Before you do, watch the video below to get a better idea of what NOT to do. Enjoy and remember to validate!
Every day we challenge and invite you and your loved one (parent/child) to turn to one another in love, compassion, and understanding. Read the first chapter of "Parenting: Empowering Children to Become Responsible" to gain a better knowledge of the step by step process of how to serve your relationship. This book is for both children and parents to learn from. The PDF link is attached below or you may get your own personal hard copy to write in and study from directly.
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Today's challenge includes listening to podcast episode 1 where Jodi Hildebrandt goes into detail about the why's and the how's of connection. Why do you want to connect with your parent or child?