What is Validation?

Validation is a need. Just like we need air, water, and food to survive, we need connection and validation. A baby will literally die if not given validation, connection, and love.

In this week's blog, we are going to talk about what validation means and how you can apply it in your relationships.

Remember that you are responsible for yourself and that you cannot force another to provide you with validation. That is why it is important to 1) have a connection with God and...

Here are some questions to ask yourself about when you think about emotional honesty and dishonesty?

1. Is manipulating a form of deceitfulness or emotionally dishonest? 
2. Is pride a form of being lying or emotional dishonesty? 
3. Is procrastination a method of being deceptive or dishonest? 
4. Is entitlement a form of emotional dishonesty?
5. Is denial a usage of dishonesty or emotional dishonesty? 
6. Is agreeing with shame messages a form of emotional dishonesty or misleading oneself...

Key Questions to ask Yourself?

1. Do I relate to or attempt to relate to people in a controlling manner?
2. Am I controlling with myself?
3. Do I use control as a way to manage my discomfort?
4. Do I control out of habit?
5. Do I control when I am afraid?
6. Who do I allow to control me?
7. Do I use controlling behavior or language when I am hurt?
8. How long have I engaged in controlling behavior in my life?
9. Do I control (manipulate) to get what I want?
10. Am I controlling when I get angry?
11. Do I use anger to control...

What is Denial?

People often fall into the trap of The Four Big Distortions. When we choose to believe these distortions we feel sad and inadequate. These distortions are simply false.

The Truth is the exact opposite. When I choose to believe the Truth, joy, fullness, love, and hope will be the fruits. "By their fruits, ye shall know them."

Distorted thoughts & false beliefs are erroneous conclusions we make about ourselves, others, life, our experiences, reality, and ultimately about our worth and safety. Distorted thoughts and false beliefs form when I experience a painful, uncomfortable, or traumatic experience and I choose to perceive it in distortion: fear, confusion, lack of knowledge/facts, and a lack of Truth or Reality.

When I agree with false beliefs and distorted thoughts, I exit Reality and begin to question who...

Being connected requires three things: Consciousness, Education, and Vulnerability. Watch the video below to learn more!

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