Addiction Cycle & Shame vs Guilt Bundle
Addiction is often referred to as a disease, and it is! Addiction is a dis- “ease” of emotion. Addictive behavior is never about the substance, activity, or attitude with which the person is acting out addictively. It is always about the distortion of the person’s real feelings and the inability to connect with self and others.
Shame is a painful, searing emotion. It is an emotional response to self-denigrating or self-adulating thoughts or beliefs. Every person experiences shame; there is no way not to experience it. However, because shame is an emotional outcome of lies and distortions, it is caustic and corrosive, and will destroy your emotional, spiritual and physical life if you choose to live in a place of shame.
Guilt is a very misused and misunderstood word. Often, we say we “feel guilty” to express the idea of “feeling bad” or even simply feeling uncomfortable. In fact, guilt is a very specific experience with a very specific purpose.
Specs: 11.5" x 8.5" Workbook with 88 pages
Faulty Core Beliefs & Denial Bundle
are deadly, poisonous, anti-human lies all of us have unconsciously learned and believed from childhood and throughout our lives. False beliefs are the distortions (lies) you have told yourself so many times, that you now believe they are the Truth about your very being. False beliefs don’t merely attack your behavior—they attack your identity: “I am bad,” “I am not enough,” “I am unlovable,” “My needs don’t matter (I don’t matter).”
is distortion’s deceptive companion. Distortion speaks lies to us, and then denial legitimizes, cloaks, and covers the distortion, until we believe the distortion is reasonable and the Truth!
Specs: 11.5" x 8.5" Workbook with 114 pages
Co-Dependency & Caretaking Bundle
Co-dependency is an irresponsible attachment to people and/or things; I want that person or thing to “take care” of me, be responsible for me, “make me feel better,” or “rescue me” (control me). Co-dependency is addiction; I attach to other people—or things, or emotions, or food, or money—to “extract” value and worth from them, so I can feel/be “enough,” “whole,” “wanted,” “valued,” and “needed.”
Care-taking is a dishonest and manipulative attempt to “make” you or someone else meet my needs. Care-taking looks like I am giving to another person, yet it is not a gift and it is not free. I am “giving” with an agenda and expectation that I will receive something in return.
Specs: 11.5" x 8.5" Workbook with 166 pages
Anger, Fear, and Triggers Bundle
Anger is not bad, contrary to popular belief. The feelings and experience of anger are good and appropriate; they are a natural and God-given part of the human experience. The only time anger becomes “bad” or inappropriate is when I give myself permission to act out in destructive, devious, manipulative or abusive ways towards myself or others.
Fear presents itself in two ways. The first is Truthful fear, such as when you are in a life-or-death situation. The second way fear presents itself is in distortion, which describes all the rest of our fears.
Triggers are indicators or evidence that you are feeling emotions. When you feel “triggered,” it simply means you have become aware that you are feeling emotion(s). Triggers are not good or bad, they are only indicators that you are feeling (comfortable or uncomfortable emotions).
Specs: 11.5" x 8.5" Workbook with 202 pages
Empathy, Vulnerability, Validation, & Risk Bundle
Vulnerability: As humans, we live in an inescapable state of vulnerability. We are vulnerable to sickness, aging, death, pain, confusion, sadness, loss, grief, hunger, lack of information, our own poor choices, others’ choices, broken trust, deceit, fraud, violence, disasters, and on and on. The state of vulnerability means we live “out of control”—we cannot control our environments. We cannot even control our own heartbeat!
Validation is a self-less gift you give to yourself and others by seeing / witnessing the emotions / experiences of the person. It is powerful spiritual medicine that reminds us we are important, worthy, seen and understood—as spiritual beings. Validation is charity.
means being emotionally open, raw, honest, real, vulnerable and validating with another person. Emotional risk is the act of accepting / embracing your vulnerability—of being willing to expose yourself emotionally to another person.
Specs: 11.5" x 8.5" Workbook with 142 pages
Safety & Recovery Bundle
Emotional safety means I live a lifestyle of honesty, personal responsibility, humility, openness, vulnerability, validation, and consistency. I create emotional safety for myself by: Being emotionally honest, humble, vulnerable, validating and open. Knowing myself: knowing my wants, needs, fears, expectations— and being COMPLETELY responsible for all of those items. Making boundaries for myself, to keep myself safe physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Recovery is the process of repentance. Repentance is the acknowledgement that I have erred, violated my moral code, harmed myself and/or another, or behaved selfishly. Repentance is the capability to humble yourself to: 1) acknowledge that you have offended your own moral, ethical, or belief system (and/or that of someone else), and 2) be willing to correct your errors in efforts to offer healing to yourself and other(s). It is a visceral, emotional experience, as well as an ongoing, conscious lifestyle.
Specs: 11.5" x 8.5" Workbook with 182 pages
Control vs Surrender Bundle
Control is an illusion and a distortion. In Reality, we are not in control of much in our lives. We cannot control our health, our life/death, even our own heartbeat. And we certainly cannot control anything outside of ourselves, such as our environment, other people, circumstances, events and outcomes.
Surrender is being willing to acknowledge and accept the Reality: the outcomes of life that are presented to me, as well as the outcomes of my own choices. Surrendering means letting go of (not controlling or avoiding) my expectations, wants, desired outcomes, discomforts, pain, resentments, limitations, traumas, etc.
Specs: 11.5" x 8.5" Workbook with 224 pages
Forgiveness & Humility Bundle
Humility is an acknowledgement that there is something (Truth / God) greater than me, and a willingness to align my beliefs and my behavior to that Reality. Humility is a choice to acknowledge mine and others’ vulnerabilities, weaknesses, trespasses and offenses—it is a recognition that “I’m the same as you.” A humble person examines behavior (of self and others), desiring to understand and empathize with the being. When I am humble, I am willing to give and receive feedback and change my beliefs & behavior to match the Truth / Reality. I am honest about my emotions—I do not hide them or “stuff” them. I am clear and direct and bold with myself and others about how I feel and how I perceive and think—taking complete and full responsibility for all of my emotions, perceptions, thoughts, reactions, choices and outcomes.
Specs: 11.5" x 8.5" Workbook with 316 pages
Boundaries are lines you draw and clarify between yourself and others that maintain your individuality and identity – your definition of who you are, separate from everyone else. Your boundaries are necessary all the time. The need for boundaries is as constant as your need to breathe.
Our boundaries change throughout our lives, as we develop and mature. Our most basic, primitive, and immature boundaries are about protecting and defending ourselves against the “outside world” by controlling other people and/or externals in our lives.
Specs: 11.5" x 8.5" Workbook with 70 pages
Perceptions, Motives, and Agendas Bundle
Perception is EVERYTHING. Your perceptions determine your reality. The perceptions you choose to trust and reinforce within yourself will shape your life, mold your morals, and determine your outcomes. Choosing to perceive in distortion / drama enslaves you to the service of lies. Choosing to perceive in Truth (consciousness / choice) makes you free— spiritually, emotionally and physically.
Your motive and agenda is the emotional and spiritual energy (belief system) propelling your choices. This energy / belief system is underneath everything you think, feel, and choose. At the core of this energy is either the willingness (humility) to be 100% responsible for yourself, OR the unwillingness (lack of humility) to be responsible for yourself. On this hinge (the willingness to be responsible) your motives swing either into Truth or distortion.
Specs: 11.5" x 8.5" Workbook with 112 pages
Love vs Lust Bundle
Lust is not Love
The Truth is that love and lust are not the same. The expressions and feelings of love are completely contrary and opposing to the expressions and feelings of lust. In fact, when properly defined and explained, love and lust are on opposite ends of the intimacy, respect, and morality spectrum. Unfortunately, love and lust are often confused and their expressions are inappropriately defined. Lust’s internal expressions include feelings and thoughts of self-focus and self-titillation; its external expressions include using another person (or self) in overt and/or covert ways to promote self-serving agendas.
Specs: 11.5" x 8.5" Workbook with 336 pages
Healthy Sexuality & Connection Bundle
The meaning of sexuality has been gutted, ravaged, and reduced to describe only a very narrow, limited, physical part of the human experience. The full meaning of sexuality is not focused on copulation—it is far more encompassing and descriptive of the human experience. From the time we are born, we are sexual beings. Sexuality is not limited to physical urges or sexual experiences; rather, your sexuality is your ability to connect with yourself and others.
Connection is the central spiritual and emotional need of every human being. Connection is the ability to know yourself completely, and to share yourself with yourself, with others, and with God or a Higher Power. Connection is an outcome of being impeccably emotionally honest, assertive, responsible, humble, transparent, open, and vulnerable.
Specs: 11.5" x 8.5" Workbook with 193 pages
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